Linda Bayley

30Mar 2026 by Linda Bayley No Comments

Childlike

Love

Devil sticks. Juggling. Kite flying. Pumpkin carving. Puppet shows and petting zoos. These are all things I used to do with my dad, and when I talk about them, people assume I’m talking about my childhood. Because these are childhood activities, right? Nope. Not in my world. Dad picked up juggling with balls and devil sticks when I was in my late teens. When I was in my twenties, he designed and built styrofoam kites that spun in the air. After I was married, we went to see The Velveteen Rabbit as a puppet show at the library, and the last time I saw him, in my early thirties, we went to a petting zoo together, where we ate ice cream and fed the goats. These are such great memories.…

29Dec 2025 by Linda Bayley

Year’s End

Affirmation

“I keep returning to this quiet truth: you don’t need a long list to justify your year or measure your worth. Don’t strive for quantity. If you only published one thing you’re proud of this year, or nothing at all but you finished a chapter or just started writing again, that is enough.” - Olga Katsovskiy, 2025: A Year in Review by Olga Katsovskiy | JMWW

21Sep 2025 by Linda Bayley

Minefield

Action, Musings

I have a complicated relationship with the objects that surround me. I don't necessarily see the things themselves; instead, I see the stories attached to them. This makes me worry that if I get rid of the things, I'll lose the stories, too. The result is that at any moment while attempting to declutter, I could step on a memory bomb and lose an entire day to guilt and nostalgia. To help with this, I've started reading an excellent book by Matt Paxton called Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff: Declutter, Downsize, and Move Forward with Your Life. I'm on Step 3, where Paxton talks about the emotional resonance of objects, and the guilt that can come with the idea of letting objects go. For me, the guilt is especially…

05Feb 2023 by Linda Bayley

Making Do

Action, Affirmation, Self-Esteem

At the beginning of 2019 I made a public pledge not to buy any more new clothing for a year. At last count I had 43 t-shirts in my closet, and that doesn't count the shirts that I've set aside to alter or repair. I really don't need anything new. Four years into that automatically-renewing pledge, I have more or less held the line, and have only purchased new clothing that I couldn't make myself or wouldn't want to buy second hand: a bathing suit, a couple of sports bras, socks, and underwear. I have been given socks and two sweaters as gifts, and I purchased a pair of used jeans so I could learn how to hem them. I don't miss shopping for clothes. A few months ago I…

29Dec 2021 by Linda Bayley

Three ways of looking at a grilled cheese sandwich

Musings

1. Toy box I am three years old and sitting on my toy box against the wall where the kitchen becomes the living room. I am eating a grilled cheese sandwich. The air is golden but also filled with the sound of my parents arguing. I am sitting placidly, eating my sandwich. They are yelling. I remember this, but it's possible that none of it is true. I am supposed to have told my mother at one point that the separation was her fault, because she was the one who yelled. I don't remember saying that, but it's possible that I did. The toy box has holes drilled into the back, each the size of a silver dollar. My father drilled these holes in case I get into the box…

14Dec 2021 by Linda Bayley

Speaking Ill

Musings

"Cherished grandfather of 14 grandchildren and 10 great grandchildren," says the old man's obituary. You read the obituaries every day: not every single one, not all the way through, but this one has caught your eye. You scroll through the comments. "My condolences," say the mourners. "He will be missed." Standard stuff, nothing new here, something you might have written yourself, if only you'd known the fellow. But at the bottom: "He was not Cherished by his grand children, nor his great grand children. Not from me or mine anyway." What? The comment is signed by someone with the old man's last name. A grandchild, you guess. Someone not named directly in the obituary. The old man's life has been measured and tallied and this guy wants a recount. 'Too…

24Oct 2021 by Linda Bayley

Communion

Musings

When my Gramma was dying in a palliative care facility in Paris, Ontario, she asked me to take communion with her. I gave it a great deal of thought, and then declined. I could have done it. I was baptized and confirmed in the Anglican Church, which means that as far as the Church was concerned, there would have been no problem with me taking the bread and wine. The problem was with me. At that point, I had long since stopped going to church, despite having two excellent godmothers who have never stopped trying to encourage my faith. I stopped when I realized that I could get through an entire church service, saying all the right words at all the right times, without ever once cracking open the prayer…

12May 2021 by Linda Bayley

And Counting

Affirmation, Stigma

Content Warning: suicide, and a tiny bit of blood I have been living on borrowed time for twenty-nine years. It was today, twenty-nine years ago, that I cut deep across my wrists with a razor blade, hoping that I would drift pleasantly off to sleep and not wake up. So, obviously, that didn't work out. But it might have, and so I have a blessing to count today. I was mocked for my attempt. I know this, because my suddenly-ex-boyfriend told me so. Word had gone around at school that I hadn't really meant it, because I cut crossways, and not lengthwise. Well, what did I know? I was eighteen, and that's always how they did it on television. Believe me when I say that I was sincere. Although I…

04Mar 2021 by Linda Bayley

Grace

Love, Musings

January 30, 2001 - JournalGrace tells me that when I was little I pulled a button clean off her muskrat-collared coat. She says we were out for a walk, and I kept tugging on her sleeve. I wanted to know, she says, what was I going to call her if she married my Grampa?I don't remember this incident. I'm not even sure when she came on the scene. First, there was Granny. After Granny died, quiet. And then there was Grace.I wasn't invited to the wedding. I don't know if any of the grandchildren were. To my childish logic, this was a rejection. I think that must be when I vowed she would never be my grandmother. Childish logic, indeed. I'm ashamed of that logic now, of course. It's the…

25Feb 2021 by Linda Bayley

Monolith, continued

Musings

In a post last year, I talked about why I'm writing about my father as much as I am. He was looming so large in my thoughts that I couldn't not write about him. At the time, I mostly just wanted to knock my experience with him down into bite-sized chunks that I could digest more easily. It's also possible that I wanted to knock the man himself down a few notches, prove to him that he wasn't the great man he thought he was. The first motivation is fair. The second is not, and needs to be addressed. I've mentioned elsewhere that I have my father's permission to write anything about him that I need to. At the time of that conversation, and during much of the telling of…